Friday, February 24, 2006
Sunday, February 19, 2006
**NY Times Marriage Quiz**
An editorial in the NYT today talked about marriage and had a link to a marriage quiz. Not particularly worthwhile on its own, but some the actual answers were surprising.
For example, more men than women say that marriage is their ideal lifestyle. Men tend to become more content with their marriage over time and women less so. And apparently women want out of the marriage more often than men.
So in a way the difference in contentment makes sense. The institution of marriage has never been truly equal. Women, on the whole, I think give up more in the relationship than men.
The stats also suggest that men tend to look for someone fimilar in education and earnings to themselves.
That makes sense, although I think the results would be different when the women is more educated or makes more money. Some of this I know from experience.
Maybe most interesting, is that the divorce rates among born again Christians (35%), Pentecostals (more than 40%) and in the Bible Belt are about the same or higher than atheists and agnostics (37%).
For example, more men than women say that marriage is their ideal lifestyle. Men tend to become more content with their marriage over time and women less so. And apparently women want out of the marriage more often than men.
So in a way the difference in contentment makes sense. The institution of marriage has never been truly equal. Women, on the whole, I think give up more in the relationship than men.
The stats also suggest that men tend to look for someone fimilar in education and earnings to themselves.
That makes sense, although I think the results would be different when the women is more educated or makes more money. Some of this I know from experience.
Maybe most interesting, is that the divorce rates among born again Christians (35%), Pentecostals (more than 40%) and in the Bible Belt are about the same or higher than atheists and agnostics (37%).
Thursday, February 16, 2006
** Don't know why it seems funny**
On my voice mail this morning was a message from our computer wizards saying "We have achieved network stability." They went on to say they found a piece of defective equipment in the network. Granted the network was kind of irratic yesterday, but the way it sounded on the phone brought an image of what they found to mind, not unlike this image
Tuesday, February 14, 2006
**Deconstructing V-Day**
Actually, I don't know that I can deconstruct Valentines Day. Personally, it is perennial disappointment. Disappionting because of being bombarded by messages that it is a day of enduring gestures. Unless the day mimics the flower, diamond, chocolate ads, it somehow seems disappointing.
So it should come as no surprise that I was both surprised and disappointed.
I received an unexpected electronic card and real flowers from a long time friend, who, when I think about it, often surprises me with things like this. And I received flowers from the person who according to the script, is the one who would typically be sending me flowers. But things are weird so (I know, I know, maybe he just not that into me) the flowers while kind and maybe a herculean effort given the weirdness, seem contrived, prefunctory... you get the idea. Damn valentines day engine of commerce... building unrealistic hopes and expectations....
Most of all, I mostly think of this holiday as the birthday of my glorious son. I called him shortly after midnight last night and wished him happy 19th. I was the first one to do it. Yes!
So it should come as no surprise that I was both surprised and disappointed.
I received an unexpected electronic card and real flowers from a long time friend, who, when I think about it, often surprises me with things like this. And I received flowers from the person who according to the script, is the one who would typically be sending me flowers. But things are weird so (I know, I know, maybe he just not that into me) the flowers while kind and maybe a herculean effort given the weirdness, seem contrived, prefunctory... you get the idea. Damn valentines day engine of commerce... building unrealistic hopes and expectations....Most of all, I mostly think of this holiday as the birthday of my glorious son. I called him shortly after midnight last night and wished him happy 19th. I was the first one to do it. Yes!
Friday, February 10, 2006
**Orion*
I looked to the sky from my front yard this evening and saw the constellation, Orion. I remember looking to the star-filled sky on the way back to our hut in the jungle village, Salazar Aitaca, and seeing Orion. I imagine, maybe tonight, my daughter is looking at the night sky from the Galapagos and seeing Orion.
It is not such a big world, really.
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